Monday, October 11, 2010

Working and Wedding

I realized today that I am very lucky in my work situation at the moment as it is a pretty good situation to be in and also plan a wedding. I'm a grad student, I work in a lab, I do experiments sporadically throughout the day. Some days I'm at the bench all day, some days I have no experiments to do, and I usually blog all day :)

Mondays are lab meeting days, and we all try to be on our p's and q's as far as impressing our boss. Yeah, me too, he's a great boss; sharp-minded, helpful, easy to talk to, etc...

I walked into work today, the Monday after my first trip to bridal salons, and mentioned to my coworker/bridesmaid a passing comment (I don't remember what it was about) that happened to involve the wedding dress shopping. Apparently this was the wrong thing to do. He made a comment about the wedding being all I care about from now on. I was hurt. But as I stewed about it all day, I realized something: even if I thought it was an unfair comment, I realized that the reason he made it was because I shouldn't have mentioned the wedding right before lab meeting. I take for granted the fact that he's usually cool with everything. There are, in fact, certain things that one should probably keep to themselves. Whether you work in a lax environment or a strict office environment, planning a wedding should be kept relatively quiet.

I made a comment right then and there (yeah, it was a little heated) that I would never bring it up in his presence again, but again, once I thought about it more during the day, I realized I am going to stick religiously to that comment. Number 1, there's no reason to start building animosity of any kind between you and your boss, number 2, even though I do work in a more lackadaisical environment, I still need to act professionally.

So this is me making peace with something that really did make me angry this morning. I'm not going to dwell on it, and more importantly, I am not going to make it worse. For those that do work in a more uptight environment, this probably seems obvious to you, but I have to admit, it took me all day to wrap my head around this. So for everyone out there that might be mad at their boss for being angry when they read blogs and plan all day, just try to keep in mind that they're just doing their job; making sure you do yours.

That being said, I actually had a really busy day today; I had planned to have some time to post about wedding dresses, which I would love to do, but it's now almost 10, I worked for 13 hours today, and I must go to bed. Symposium all day tomorrow, hopefully I'll be able to post tomorrow evening... For your sake as well as mine. For now I'll just say I had a blast and cannot wait to regale anyone who might want to listen about every single dress idea that's floating around in my little head!!


  1. It's easy to just talk about the wedding because you are happy about it. I have a friend who is getting married a few weeks before me and we talk about it often at work. I try not to talk about it with other people though because I realize not everyone is a freak like us. lol

  2. haha, too true, it's amazing that other people can go about their day and actually think about something else!

  3. I agree with Miss June Bride. It's actually part of the reason I started my blog. I felt like I was annoying people with all my wedding talk, so I decided to focus it into a different outlet.

    I, too, think it's amazing how people can go about their day and actually think about something else. I mean, really. Hmph. lol!